Other times, certain topics feel off the table because of social stigma or taboo: sexuality, kink, non-monogamy, infidelity, mental illness. Stigmas and taboos are so powerful in part because they amplify the feelings of shame that keep people isolated, and they silence alternative ways of understanding things that can serve to connect people. How can I share this with someone else when they’re definitely going to think I’m a terrible person, or at least a weirdo?? What’s wrong with me that I can’t just be fine with the things that everyone else seems happy with??
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How It Works: Therapy
I’ve been thinking lately about the work that I do. About how I actually help. I started wondering, Is there a way that I could summarize the work that I do with every one of my clients, in simple terms, regardless of their starting point?
Here’s what I’ve come up with so far.
Consensual Non-Monogamy: I Didn’t Sign Up For This Sh*t
…But right now I want to talk to those of you whose first reaction to the idea of consensual non-monogamy was “Oh, hell f***cking NO!”
I just want to say––explicitly––I’m here for you too.
Opening My Monogamous Relationship: Just a Terrible F***ing Idea, or What? Part 1
Is it a terrible idea? Maybe. I dunno. It depends on your relationship. On you. On your partner. On why you want to open it to begin with. On what you’re hoping to get out of it. On what alternatives you and your partner feel you have. How’s that for an evasive answer? The realityContinue reading “Opening My Monogamous Relationship: Just a Terrible F***ing Idea, or What? Part 1”